Eh, I don’t like when people be like “black girls watch out cause white girls getting booty these days” cause to a black girl’s ears it kinda sounds like “watch out because your only value is your fetishized body and once that’s gone you’ll truly be worthless”
i find it really angering that abusive friendships aren’t addressed as much as abusive relationships. they’re both very much alike, horrible, and do a great deal of damage. its hard to talk to someone about leaving an abusive friend and feel like you’re being taken seriously
That post wasn't meant to troll. And would you explain what the right "notion of transvestism" would be for seeing them?
i think i might be too tired to parse what you mean by ‘would be for seeing them’ at the moment.
the point i’m really making isn’t that ‘transvestite’ as a word/id is necessarily good or bad
but the fact is, is that at least during the years of Stonewall and a little bit after, many of the important and notable participants often did use that word to describe themselves.
yes, there are historical reasons for why and for why they may have used different words as they grew older and trans/gender discourse changed. but the fact that ppl grow and change over time doesn’t invalidate their earlier experiences.
to strip them of their agency by coercively labelling them with the notion that
'well, if they were alive today, they'd probably use a different word'
is to disrespect their memories and to misunderstand what their legacy is.
transvestism isn’t a gross concept because some ppl used it to describe themselves, but because it literally was an attempt by the medical industrial complex to de-legitimize certain types of gender expression by making their lives/identities into a fetish.
the fact that this term isn’t much used today owes a great deal to the legacies of these women/ppl who once ID’d as ‘transvestites’ but rose up against their oppressors and changed everything.
The Stonewall Riots were started by trans PoC, and making a movie about it, directed by a cis white guy, and starring a cis white guy. is probably one of the biggest slaps in the face to the trans community to date. Transwomen of color started the riots, and were swept under the rug as drag queens by the cis gay community. Making the movie with white cis male actors is disgusting and transphobic as hell.
ok, but what exactly is it being done here when you make this statement but don’t say the words racist and transmisogynist?
i’ve also been annoyed at this once already
but i’m also stuck on the ‘drag queens’ part
because, while a lot of today’s white dq’s are soulless replicants of the past,
it is important that Sylvia Rivera (and I think Marsha P. Johnson) were okay with IDing as ‘transvestites’ and/or ‘drag queens’
it doesn’t change the reality of who they are and what they were and what they’ve done for the world
but acting like how they ID’d and conceived of themselves is wholly due to white cis gays entirely removes their agency and flattens the complexity of iaopoc gender/sexuality in the same way (by reducing who they are to only their gender)
can we please fucking destroy the idea that pansexuals are automatically flirty and that asexuals are incapable of flirting or being outgoing and romantically social? can we please clarify that these stereotypes are just as incorrect as the stereotype that all gays are sassy and all lesbians are masculines? please??
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Why are there so few POC into bdsm on tumblr? It gets lonely out here...:(
We are here. We just can’t find each other. That’s why I’m so vocal because I remember how lonely I was before I found my leather family. I want you guys to submit here and use this space. Find each other!
It also helps if you have a way to contact each other so being anonymous makes it harder.
this is an interesting point, although mathematically inaccurate: assuming the women:men, 0.78:1 ratio is correct, men make $1.28 for every woman’s $1
A white man makes $1.34 for every dollar that a black man makes
A white man makes $1.52 for every dollar that a latino man makes
A white man makes $1.24 for every dollar that a white woman makes
A white man makes $1.44 for every dollar that a black woman makes
A white man makes $1.67 for every dollar that a latina woman makes
That’s some bullshit right there.
Let’s take it a step further. For every hour a white man works, a black woman has to work 86 minutes to earn as much money. 57.6 hours a week compared to the white man’s 40.
Take it another step further. Assuming a Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 job, from Thursday 12:45pm through Friday end of business, a white man gets paid for his work, a black woman is, by comparison, working for free.
It’s hilarious that we live in a society that will shame you for how much sex you have and for the junk food you eat. Like, wow, how dare you eat delicious foods and have orgasms, you’re a monster. Enjoy your miserable life filled with pleasures.
In a perfect world with no cissexism or transphobia, how would people introduce themselves/their gender? Because obviously we shouldn't assume anyone is ANY gender, so do you introduce it along with your name? Idk it would just be weird knowing someone but not their gender or lack thereof.
It’d be like your middle name. Something some people know, but nothing terribly important. Because in this world, the patriarchy would be destroyed. People would look and dress and act however they wanted and no one would care. Your gender wouldn’t be assumed, and no one would care.