People who are currently doing sex work know much much more about the ways the industry is fucked up and abusive than people who are not doing sex work. AND! I know this is a radical thought to many radical feminists: they also have better ideas on what they need to protect themselves and ensure their safety and happiness than people who are not doing sex work. The Nordic model has never actually been implemented in a way that decriminalises sex workers and it is all about ramping up arrests.
Feminists should not be our enemies. Feminists should not be voting for policies that support the status quo, they should not be vocally agitating for policies that result in the continued criminalisation and brutalization of marginalised populations.
And they shouldn’t be holding their vote over our heads like a punishment if one of us protests the one sided consumption of our lives or blogs
“Because we live in such a monogamy-centered society, it makes sense that many people can only conceive of non-monogamy in what ultimately still amounts to monogamous terms. There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one. Many of us have deeply committed relationships with more than one partner, with no hierarchy among them and no core “couple” at the heart of it all. To me, this notion that there must be one more important relationship, one true love, feels a lot like people looking at same-sex couples and thinking that one person must be the “man” in the relationship and the other must be the “woman.” After all, both of these misunderstandings result from people trying to graft their normative conceptions of love and relationships onto people who are partnering in non-normative ways. It seems that it is somewhat easy for many people to acknowledge that humans are capable of loving one person and still enjoying sex with others (assuming, of course, that the terms of their relationship make such behavior acceptable). But it is much harder for people to think outside the fairy-tale notion of “the one” and imagine that it might be possible to actually romantically love more than one person simultaneously.”—
1. Talk to someone: Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).
2. Work on improving your self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).
3. Manage your stress levels: If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.
4. Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself: Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.
5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.
6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!
"Beware the false motives of others.
Be careful of those who pretend to be brothers.
And you never suppose it’s those who are closest to you.
They say all the right things, to gain their position.
Then use your kindness as their ammunition.
To shoot you down in the name of ambition.”
honestly i kind of look at it like this in many ways too. i identify as queer because i would sleep with any gender someone id’s as as long as we compatible. but ultimately, i think when i refer to myself as gay or dyke it’s because i love women in a way that is eternal and familial and more than just sexual attraction (though that is part of it). i don’t think i could create a family w/ a man and don’t know if i really want to in the end and yea, i call myself gay as fuck for that lol
This is how I view sexuality I general. Partly why I believe sleeping someone of the same gender doesn’t make you attached to the homosexual label. And it’s not just to let the str8 men I’ve had sex with walk away with their sexuality/manhood untarnished. But there’s generally a big difference in how a gay man appreciates my body as to a str8 man. I don’t know how to explain this but yea!!!
Mills College, a women’s school in Oakland, California, has just made history.
The college has adopted a written policy explicitly stating that trans women are welcome to attend the school, making it the first single-sex school in the country with such a policy.
According to school officials, between 3 and 5 of the school’s 1,000 applicants each year identify as trans or gender nonconforming; this policy will make it easier for these students to apply and attend, should they so choose. The first students for whom the new policy applies will begin their classes this coming spring semester.
“When people can be authentically who they are — that’s who Mills is,” said Mills senior Tess Fillbeck-Bates.
“This is really just a codification of our practice for several years,” said Brian O’Rourke, vice president for enrollment management.
This is a HUGE deal for students of all gender identities. When colleges and universities are inclusive and affirming on paper as well as in practice, it sets a standard for other schools to follow. Well done, Mills. Well done.
The recent CBS story regarding nine Swedish women who received uterus transplants undoubtedly caught the attention of transgender women throughout the world. Anyone, with even the slightest awareness of the advancement of medical science, understands that eventually there will be few things left in the realm of impossible. The idea that a transgender woman will one day be able to carry a child in her womb is no longer just an idea. It is a reality of the future.
If this becomes a thing I think I’d like to donate my uterus to a trans woman.
HOLY SHIT THAT IS AMAZING
I wouldn’t personally wish my fucked-up uterus on any trans woman but if it worked right I would donate in a heartbeat and THERE ARE OTHERS WITH HEALTIHER THAN MINE AND THAT IS SO GREAT
Do you have any advice for a tgirl who has a stubborn mustache/5o'clock shadow? I've tried plucking and shaving but my hair grows back fast and thick. I'm praying they'll slow down/stop as soon as I start hormones this year
Silicone based primer to smooth texture, orange lipstick blended over it to cancel out grey and blue hues, concealer ontop, blended with a wet sponge. Powder, and then mist the skin with something to takeaway the powdery look.