“Nicki features twerking girls in her Anaconda video and people call it “pornographic and inappropriate” but Taylor Swift uses black girl’s asses as props and people see it as ~quirky and cute~ I’m so sick of this earth”—Submitted by Anonymous
deciding i was pretty was the best thing that i ever did
one day i was just like
fuck this im pretty
and i was
i’m reblogging this twice because this is probably the truest statement I’ve ever come across. And it holds power and ability for every person struggling within themselves. use this because it will make a difference in your life.
Some days it can be a struggle. I really have to work at it. Totally worth it, though.
Put coconut oil in your hair, exercise, take hot showers, massage lotion into your skin, eat food that makes you feel good, stretch, lay around in bed, and listen music that makes you feel happy. Just do you.
cishet people be like NOOO U CANT USE THAT TERM TO DESCRIBE UR SEXUALITY/GENDER ITS MADE UP WORD!!! and then turn around and make up ridiculous terms like mancrush and guyliner and man-purse in order to keep their precious hetronormitive gender roles intact
Dear fat girls wearing crop tops: please. Continue. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t. You’re so fucking cute!!! You look absolutely fabulous, if I might add, and your self worth isn’t determined on how men see you.
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It makes me really sad the way that older trans folks are treated as disposable and backwards by the up-and-comers. Older trans folks have often spent our whole lives working on building and sustaining the communities up-and-comers enter into, only to be told that we have no place in it.
This isn’t to say that older trans folks (people older in years of transition, just to clarify) are infallible or beyond criticism, but there is a huge trend of tearing down anyone who came before. It’s a large part of why our community is so fractured. It’s why we’re always trying to invent the wheel, even though we’ve already got half an airplace built.
It also accounts for why older trans folks are so at risk of isolation and suicide. One older trans woman, who basically built all of Canada’s trans community, now never really leaves her house. She was expelled from the community she built, and as a result is completely isolated and dealing with isolation-related mental health issues.
This is why I’m so committed to intergenerational relationships. I treasure the time I get to have with trans elders, even when they say shit that makes me uncomfortable. And I also really value the time I get to spend with younger trans folks — running a trans youth group for four and a half years was one of the best parts of my whole life so far. I just wish we could bridge this gap without the younger folks going all call-out culture on the older folks, and without the older folks dismissing everything the younger folks say.
I wasn’t in the mood for this yesterday, but here it is.
Cuckolding as it appears and as it used to be is about a superior wife. The woman in the relationship (can be simply a significant other) outs the male as insufficient for her intimate needs, bosses him around, makes him do chores, and gets whatever she demands from him. He in turn meekly worships the ground she walks on, is grateful that she will still associate with him at all, and adores her supremacy so much that he understands that making her happy is more important than any of his own needs. Picture if you will the quintessential comedic meek and scrawny husband with his busty, snooty, bossy wife draped in furs. She runs him through Saks 5th, spends his money on dresses and jewelry, and makes him hold the bags. At home she rarely bothers with such manual ‘mundanities’ as dishwashing, sweeping or cooking- in fact you would be more likey to see the husband in an apron (or more overtly, a maid uniform) doing these things. If she so wishes, the Superior Woman can invite female friends over to marvel at and make a spectacle of her well-trained-husband, and she is also free to be intimate with other men, since her inferior man has no place in her bedroom.
But that last part…
Current cuckolding has forgotten the Superior Woman completely. Oh, no, the Cuckolds of today will vehemently say they have not…but they vehemently deny other things, too- I’ll get to that in a moment. Right now I submit to you a disclaimer:
Current day cuckolding is homophobic by and large, but it is not necessarily homosexual. It is phallocentrc, and that is not a sexuality. It is a celebration and worship of maleness focused on the penis. Men love penises. While it is normal for humans to celebrate their own genitals (think, ladies, on how often you may find yourself reblogging images of different vulvas, or posts about loving your pussy- doing so has no bearing on your sexuality), men go way too far with this and they are obsessed. This obsession with their own dicks is at the root of the perversion of many fetishes and likely many of society’s ills.
Now, to continue.
The Cuckold of today is an avid cocksucker and has a huge propensity to overlap into the ‘forced bi/gay’ category of fetishes. This cuckold will talk of the superior woman only in the context of blaming her for ‘making him’ gay, or bi, or a cocksucker. i.e. “I’m only doing this because you made me” “I sucked him off to impress you”. They also will not leave the Superior Woman to her own sex, instead shoving themselves into it. It’s not enough to know, not even to watch the Superior Woman enjoying sex with a better man. No, they have to be right there on the dick. "I’ll be your fluffer" (the fuck does a hot woman need with a fluffer?) "I’ll eat his cum out of your pussy" so on and so forth. Many of them fantasize on and on about being cummed on by or forced to fellate the wife’s new man or any superior men- but this is all about dick size. These men think that the end-all-be-all of what makes a man more desirable than them is simply a bigger dick- not a better personality, income, physical appearance, nothing. Just the dick.
Which brings me to another point: 9 out of 10 of them, on average, are allll bout BBC.
I do not engage in nor do I perpetuate BBC fetish because it is the exploitation of Black men, largely by white people, as a sex object based on a damaging racist stereotype. I know there are Black men who engage in this fetish- they aren’t shit, either.
Back to the conversation.
These cuckolds will go on and on about how clearly any Wife would leave them for BBC because big black cocks are like pussy magnets. This is an annoying idea because it absolves the cuckold of any blame. “Of course she left me for his Big Black Cock” is much easier to say than “I’m miserable to be around, I think lifting a remote is exercise, I learned how to fuck from Hentai, and I am never focused on pleasing my partner in bed. Of course she left me- I’m a shitty partner”. So again, they can shirk their blame. I do not support this.
All in all, 8 out of 10 of these men will also specifically not respond to subject matter in which they are actually fucked. They will not respond to a context of ‘gayness’ wherein they are fully intimate with another man as a whole person; only as a dick and sometimes a stack of bigger muscles.
In sum, current day cuckolding is just another fetish turned towards manworship, that uses the proxy of the Superior Woman as an excuse. She is the plate for the cum the man wants, She is the catalyst for his own phallocentric fantasies, She is no longer being worshiped or upheld. Uncomfortable with the idea of being gay (but apparently totally comfortable with perpetuating the damaging idea that someone can be ‘made’ gay and therefore unmade and not born that way), they use racism and sexism to assuage their homophobia and gain a pass to celebrate the male penis.
~And that is why I no longer care for cuckolding~~~
I think a big thing for me, like most folks, is figuring out who the fuck is down for me, who is here for convenience, to suck me dry, who only lusts for me, etc and vice versa. I’m in no rush to figure it all out but goddamn life is interesting right now.