fitvillains:

Agree? I do.

Sometimes negative relationships have to be severed. Sometimes, just limited (reducing time spent with that person or changing the role you play in each others lives). But if you’re not equally working on surrounding yourself with more positive people, you won’t feel the benefits as much.

Ending relationships is hard, but you can redefine them too. Spend less time with negative people (or those who trigger negative emotions in you), be kind about it (it actually isn’t them), and open yourself up to positive influences, resources and like minded people. Especially when we’re beginning a healthier journey, it is crucial to have some support SOMEWHERE. You can find it in classes, online, at work, at school… just don’t be afraid to explore unfamiliar places. Pay attention to the people who are already nice to you and supportive (sometimes we miss them while we’re focused on Negative Ned’s). Develop a new routine: anything else you can do on a Friday night? New friends are awesome.

And don’t freak! Have fun doing it. Unapologetically demand a better environment for yourself. But instead of focusing on exclusion only, put more energy into surrounding yourself with people who make you feel GOOD. Those who encourage you, and support your goals. Who accept you as you are, no conditions.

xo

(via freereeves)